Tuesday, May 25, 2010

My boyfriend got me pregnant, and I want an abortion, does he have any say in what I do legally?


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Unfortunately, he has no say. Depending on where you live, how far along you are, and how old you are, the government and your parents might have the right to interfere. For your child's sake, I hope so.

Your boyfriend didn't "get you pregnant." You got yourself pregnant. Don't get me wrong - your boyfriend is just as responsible, but you sound like you're trying to avoid taking responsibility.
no
no, he doesnt, but depending on where you live and how old you are, your parents might.

oh, and he didnt get you pregnant, you had to be there too. your blaming him for what is both of your problem.
He has no say. Good luck to you.
No....

and actually, the action of both of you got you pregnant.
Don't get an abortion in the first place. If you do, you're a murderer!
You are a vile specimen of a human being.
First of all, YOU were also there when he "got you pregnant". Second, abortion is murder. If you don't have the abortion, you can give the child up for adoption, or perhaps the father's family will take it. Abortion is not there to use as birth control!
I believe he does have a SAY. You need to discuss it with him because it is just as much his child as it is yours... it took both of you to make it. However, ultimately it is your body and you get to make the decision... but I think it is his right to have a say in what happens to the child you both made.
sure blame it all on him, you were probably there as well. grow up.
Maybe not, but really?

Why is 'legal' your only standard for living?
No, it's your body and as far as I know there's nothing he can do about it. Just be sure abortion is legal in your area and ,good luck to you.
Honey, you say "my boyfriend got me pregnant" as if you had nothing to do with it. It's your fault you got pregnant if you did not insist on one of the following:

1.) Condoms
2.) Birth control
3.) Abstinence

No, your boyfriend does not have any say in what you decide, but for the love of god, practice a little personal responsibility from here on out, okay?
Only if you were to hold them responsible if you were to have the kid.

But I guess legally you can kill your child, that will make all democrats happy.

It's just a life, God will be OK with it.
No, but rather ironically, if you chose to have the baby you could force him to pay child support even if he didn't want it. How fair is that?
Your boyfriend didn't just get you pregnant,you had a part in it too.I think he does have a say.If you dont want the baby,maybe he will.Its his baby too!If neither of you want it,than put it up for adoption.Someone will love it.But DONT Kill it!!
First - HE did not get you pregnant. YOU allowed yourself to get pregnant.
Second - You have the right to decide for yourself.
Third - Seek help and support from parents.
Fourth - Do not place the entire blame on the boy. You allowed this without protection.
Fifth - Do NOT have sex again until you are mature enough to handle the consequences.
he wont have any say not unless you have given birth to a baby from him
IF you were killed two years ago, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed ten years ago, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed at two years old, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed in the third trimester in your mommy's womb, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you the freshly germinated egg were killed, the you that exists now would not be alive. How many real people are not alive because of abortion. Millions upon millions. I have seen aborted babies that have lived and have grown to adulthood. Abortion ends the life of a person in genesis form. You kill the fetus; you kill the 40 year old man or woman that fetus would have grown to be. If your Mom had killed you when you were a fetus, then you would not be. I hope you know what the enormous thing you are doing just for the sake of convenience.
Nope
since we don't know how old you are how CAN we tell you that it's YOUR decision----if you are under age 18, it is your parent's decision ---between the ages of 12 and 14 or maybe even OLDER, Planned Parenthood even has to tell your parents... HOWEVER, if you are 18 and older this is redundant...and of course ALL YOUR CHOICE. just make sure you weigh the pros and cons of your decision THOROUGHLY before you do ANYTHING. whatever decision you make, I KNOW it will be a difficult one and one you will think about until the day you die.there ARE other options to abortion. you could register at a reputable adoption agency--LOTS of childless couples are looking for babies to adopt... I'm PRO-CHOICE but I'm also 56 and will never have to MAKE that choice for myself----(I have one child and could have no more)...you have the RIGHT to your own decision no matter WHAT that decision is---as long as you are old enough to MAKE that decision.
If you live in the U.S neither your boyfriend NOR your parents have any say, and if anyone wants to discuss that issue, contact the U.S. Supreme Court. The issue has been decided since 1969
I understand you find yourself in a position that is quite difficult but will you please consider not getting the abortion? At the very least, give the child a chance and allow the baby to be adopted by a family who would love to raise it. How do you know that the child you are carrying right now is not going to be the one who finds a cure for a disease that has been ailing mankind for years? or is a future President? or Olympian? or the person who saved their community from being taken over by bad people?
No, the Courts have ruled that not even a husband or parent has any say legally.

It is not a decision to be made lightly though; I have a friend that had an abortion and it has haunted her the rest of her life. I have had an acquaintance that was divorced, had two children then got pregnant by a boyfriend who left when he found out and chose to have the child and put it up for adoption; as hard as that was to do, she seemed much more at peace knowing her child went to a good home than the child never having a chance to be born.
Honey, you are not a vile speciman of a human being as some idiot posted above.

But you could be making the biggest mistake of your life. After only two weeks, your baby's heart began to beat with a completely different blood type than your own. Your baby wants to live and grow and be born. Just like you did.

Just remember this - you are a mother now. You will either be the mother of a dead baby or a live baby. I hope you will make the right choice; one that you won't regret.
No! It's your body! If that's what you want to do, then you have the right to do so!! But he does have the right not to pay for it. And don't listen to any of the evil and judgmental people that are calling you a murderer or "vial", who are they to judge?? Anyway, if there is anyway that you can have this child with out putting your life at risk (we don't know your situation) you should consider it. There are many people out there that would love to have a baby and can't. I know some, (if you want to discuss this further you can email me sjude2003@yahoo.com), just know that there are alternatives, it's ultimately your choice. Have you spoken to you parents about this? Maybe they wouldn't take it as bad as you think. I have 2 daughters and I shutter at the idea of them coming home pregnant, it's something you don't really want to talk about, but I love them and would do anything for them, including helping them out with my grandchild. I wish you luck in your decision and if you need someone to talk to email me. Good Luck.

My boss says its illegal to work with a nose piercing..Is this true?

I work in a small bar, but apparently it's against higiene law for an employee to work with a nose piercing..?
Is this true?
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There is no way that it is illegal.

If that's the case, why aren't we stopped wearing them in my work - in hospital?

If they claim that it might fall out of your nose whilst serving people, the same could be said about boogies!! Sorry to be vulgar but it's true.

I would guess that your boss just doesn't like it. If you were of an ethnic background, they would have no choice but to accept it.

Good luck.
Not sure about drinks - but any jewelery should be removed or covered if you are working with food.
It's not illegal, it just depends on company policy
Thats the 1st i`ve heard of it
check company policies
No it's not true.UNLESS the state you live in has one of those old funky laws from years and years ago that still in effect but no one really enforces.
Convince your boss to get a PA and he'll forget all about your nose piercing.
This is health and safety hygiene and if the piercing can be dangerous for any reason it can be considered as unsuitable.
If it were illegal, people with pierced earrings would also be banned.
It could be in some states although I can't see why a nose ring would have anything to do with serving drinks. The customers drink doesn't go anywhere near your face. It may be a company policy. If that is the case and you still want to work there, just remove it while working.
it depends
C'mon, he made this up, right?
Local ordinances can vary, particularly pertaining to food or bev handling. But I doubt if local codes specifically forbid nose studs.
Nose studs are a big turnoff to me. I don't like to think how people get the backs on and off.
Your boss may feel they are a turn off to his/her customers. He does have a right to expect you to dress appropriately for your job. He may be in his rights to ban jewelry that might be offensive to customers or that might imply unsanitary habits.
Take it out while you're at work. Why rock the boat over this?
no its not illegal unless you work with food then you just have to cover it . some asian women wear them as part of their faith no one makes them take that out
where food preparation is involved then yeah - but if there's no food he's probably just being annoying. if you've just had it done and can't take it out, you should be allowed to cover it with a plaster, although that would look a bit silly.
if its local policy then you should follow it. It may fall out and go in a drink or snack.

Not sure it is "law" as such but if it is local policy then just do it.

Like a previous person said, you can take it out whilst at work.

If it is newly pierced then you should have asked ur boss about this first.

My boss is verbally abusive, what should i do?

For the last few months, one of my bosses has been very verbally abusive to me. I have gone to the presedent of the company and she has told me she would talk to her, but nothing has changed. I have even told her if it continues I am going to press charges and sue her for the abuse. What are the next steps I should take? Thanks in advance for your help.
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Start looking for other employment...

That is my policy at all times really, even if I'm happy with my current job, I always have back-up employment lined up. Even if it's just temporary work until I can find something in my field. Anything to lighten the burden on my "emergency funds" until I can find another decent paying job.

Everyone is replaceable, no one owes you a job, and there will come a time when you don't get along with the management.
shoot him in the face
Talk to the presidnet of the company again and then talk to him in the face. Try not to bring a middle person in. Just go up to him...keep your cool and tell him what you are feeling. Good Luck with everything.
Talk to the President of the company one more time and tell them your next call will be to the EEOC if they do not fix this problem within the next 3 days.
Report her. The longer you wait the worse it's going to get. If you wait too long when you finally do report her they will ask why you waited so long.
Nobody should have to go through abuse of any kind in the work place. You should pursue the step you said that you would and press charges. Especially if this has been going on for months. Good luck :)
Try getting some direct evidence of the abuse ie, tape recordings or an eye witness and sue him/her. You must also be able to prove damages caused by the abuse. Good luck..
Quit and find a new job.
If you're serious about taking action, you'll need as much evidence as you can gather. Keep a diary of these incidents, with as much detail as possible. If you can, get others to witness the abuse too. You should talk to your HR department if you have one, or a Union rep if thats applicable.

On the other hand, you could try managing your boss. What triggers these incidents? Is your boss responding inappropriately to some issue between the two of you? Is she getting hassle from HER boss when these incidents happen? Could you avoid the problem by handling your boss differently? This isnt to say that your boss isn't responsible for her own actions - of course she is. But to use an old joke:

"Every time I do X, my boss is mean to me, what should I do?"
"Well, you could stop doing X".

The serious point is, assuming your boss isn't just a complete b**ch, the two of you should be wanting the same thing - to do a good job, keep the customer happy, make money, live the good life. That won't happen if you arent working together - so its not in your interest or your bosses interest to keep going the way you are. Something needs to change, and one thing you can try is to take some control of the situation yourself.

Or, if its just a job and not THE Job, the easiest course of action is to start looking for a new boss.
get a lawyer. Make sure you have witnesses that will stand up for you in court. Otherwise it is hearsay.

My boss is trying to take me for a fool. what do i do?

i was working for a dentist starting back in november of 06. i didn't like it, and left on good terms after 6 months. i'm now emplayed my a different dentist, but the last couple of weekends, my PREVIOUS employer has been asking me to work for him. i picked up my first paycheck for working weekends, and my check didn't have a stub. when i asked for one. he told me that i was no longer on the payroll and that he didn't deduct taxes. he said it's "contract work", so, it's my responsibility to claim what i make and what not on my own. i never signed a contract. and i want to paid with my taxes taken out as reference. it helps to get apartments and i'm trying to get a car, so i need it. i'm only 18, and i think he's trying to take advantage that i'm not educated in such matters. i never signed a contract, and he's not giving me what i want. what do it do?
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He is paying you as a sub-contractor. THat's why he is not deducting taxes. This is a way for him to save money. He doesn't have to match Social Security deductions, pay taxes.

It is quite legal but only if YOU agree to it. He will report what he pays you and the IRS will expect you to pony up the taxes at the end of the year.

Many employers try this.but it won't hold up with the tax man if there isn't some sort of contract.
Yes, he is trying to use you as a subcontractor. You have two options:

1. ask him for a contract in writing. This contract should say that if the IRS determines your relationship to be employer-employee rather than contractor-contractee, the boss will be responsible for financial consequences (otherwise, if the IRS says you are an employee, you will have to pay all the payroll taxes). Have a lawyer read it over before signing.
2. insist on being hired as an employee.
If you need the stubs for verification of income, just
keep photocopies. At the end of the year you should
receive a form 1099 for wages that he paid you, compare
the amount on the 1099 form to the amounts from your
photocopies, for your own good deduct 15.9% from each
check for Social Security taxes and another 10% for
federal taxes, put this amount of money into a savings
account after you get paid, you will need them to file
your income taxes at the end of the year.

You don't necessarily have to sign a contract to be paid
as a contract employee, this part time job keeps the
dentist from having to pay 50% of your Social Security and
State disability, if you get injured on the job you are on
your own (ie no disability) If you are not comfortable with
working in this manner tell the dentist that you can not
work this way.

As a contractor you can deduct the mileage you put on
your car to travel to and from work, plus other costs
make sure you keep good records.
Ask yourself two things.

1) After you deduct the taxes out of what he is paying you, is he paying you enough to make it worth putting in the time.

2) How important, really, is it to be able to prove this little bit of additional income when you apply for apartments, etc?

If you aren't getting enough to offset the taxes that you are going to have to pay out of your own pocket at the end of the year, or if the additional 'proveable' income is that important, you'll have to find another side job instead.

Otherwise, enjoy your side job, while saving 20% of your weekend earnings to be able to pay the piper next April 15th.


One more note, don't let yourself end up owing the government, especially the IRS more than $1000 per quarter, or you will get fined.

If you keep the side job, you might want to increase your taxation rate at your regular job to avoid owing more than $1000 to the federal government at the end of the year.
Nothing wrong with that, I've been working on contract for years. Actually, it entitles you to more tax deductions.

As long as you claim it on your taxes, you can prove your income based on your return.

He could be doing you a favor.
Revenge is always a good alternative.

My boss is too emotional and involves her personal feelings in the office. How do I communicate with her?

I'm an accountant and i need to report to her on a daily, weekly, monthly and every time she wants me basis... but if she comes sad from home, she will act horribly and tell me mean things... She also promotes her two stupid daughters, encouraging them to act like all the world was theirs and that everybody in the firm should bow down like peasants in front of them. Do I quit, or do I try to solve the problem?
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This sounds like a toxic environment and I recommend that you seek new employment. In the meantime, I would document all requests in writing (email is the best) and I would keep a log of things significant things she has said or done, promises made, etc. If/when you leave, she may cause trouble and if you've documented events well with dates, you will protect yourself from any kind of action she might try to take against you.
Look for another job then quit. It is easier to get another job if you are in employment.
Look for another job.

Everyone has their own drama and shouldn't be forced to put up with anyone else's while at work.

She's very unprofessional to be doing the things that she does, and who wants to work for someone like that.
How current is your resume.?
Time to start looking.
Confront her and tell her the problem. Tell her she is just a **** and you were looking for a job when you found this one. She will either fire you or take notice to you. It is better to be honest with yourself then to play her stupid games. It would be the best solution for both of you to lay the cards out on the table and bet the farm right from the start.
Quitting seems like a way out, but you will have to deal with difficult people no matter where you go. If you enjoy your job otherwise, just try to be as sterile and non-emotional as you can when you deal with her or her daughters. Emotional people usually leave people who don't give them a reaction alone.

My boss I feel is being really unprofessional. His wife works with us and she has been the cause of many?

of many problems. Instead of telling her she can't work there. He is in the middle sticking up for her. I can see why he does it, but his reasons are unjust. When approached about the situation he gets offended. When it is easlily explained that if the person everyone was complaining about wasn't his wife it wouldn't be an issue. What should we do?
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In his company, he pretty much gets to decide what behavior is professionally acceptable or not. It's not about fairness or justice, but about how he chooses to run his business. However, you as an employee also have a choice of what's an acceptable work environment. If you're no longer satisfied, there are plenty of employers out there. It's not indentured servitude- you're free to go work someplace better.
Quit, en mass. All of you walk off the job at once.

He'll get the picture.
Your boss has bigger problems in his life than in the business! Be understanding, and don't confront unless pushed. Also, refresh your resume!

Good Luck!
Unfortunatly he is your boss and pretty much has the final say. If repeated attempts are made to resolve the "problem", go unheeded then its is his doing. You can only confront them and bring up situations in which the company was hurt by such actions but other than that it is still his decision. Do your part and if the company suffers still, look toward getting a similar job or better.

My boss has lied and cheated his way into power how do i get him busted?


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Hello!
That is very unfortunate! Keep copies of everything you can, but keep it at home, not in your desk! Keep a log of everything and watch your step! Every time I've turned somebody in for cheating, I've just "shot myself in the foot"! Only turn him in if you're ready to go on down the street! It's a shame, but it's happening! We're even taught to cheat in college! Just be careful!
Prove it.
find some evidence and call the cops
Tell his superior what you know about your boss.
provide proof of wrongdoing, not claims. proof can be used in a court of law, but just making unsubstantiated claims can cost you everything when you get sued for slander.
ok get a recorder and then u un cover him :)
Look for another job. if you go to someone,that person may be a good buddy of your boss,and it'll blow up in your face. Welcome to office politics.
 


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